Meet A Blogger: Victo Dolore

I’ve been doing the Meet A Blogger interviews since early on in the year, and my final question always asks the blogger to show some love and recommend a few other bloggers they’re really into. One of the names that has come up a lot is Victo Dolore, who blogs at Behind the White Coat.

As both a family physician and a mom, Victo covers many topics on her blogs. Meet A BloggerWhile many of her posts have a humorous side to them, you’ll often be left thinking. On top of that, stunning pictures always accompany her posts.

What’s your blog about and how did you get started blogging?

I started blogging, actually, as a way to force me to work a novel I had been dragging my feet on for years, Victo Dolore. It is about women, morality, and medicine and was set in Victorian times. My first post there was Prologue. At first it was great therapy, having a creative outlet, since I could not very well work on making jewelry with two toddlers running about the house, but I found that I really needed a way to write about my real life, too. Behind The White Coat was born. Just Why is my first post there.

If you knew your blog was going to self-destruct and you had five minutes to select and save three posts, which ones would you save?

Gah! It took me more than five minutes to answer that question and I think if I delved deeper into the archives I might have a different answer but here goes:

Grave is the first one I would pick. It is fresh and it still makes me angry when I think about it.

Gifted would be number two.

Multiples is number three simply because it was fun to write.

Would you rather…wear someone’s dirty underwear or use their toothbrush?

Dirty underwear, though it does depend on whose and how dirty.

If you could challenge another blogger to a dance off, who would it be and what would be your signature move?

I suck at dancing. But if I had to dance publicly against someone I would pick Desley at Musings of a Frequent Flying Scientist. She seems hip, creative, and fun and I think that she would be kind enough not to make me look like a complete fool. My signature move would be “crazy middle aged woman waves her arms frantically in the air while awkwardly hopping up and down with no apparent rhythm.”

As a mom, what is the funniest thing you’ve seen your kids do?

My kids are a never ending source of entertainment. All kids are funny as hell at times. Probably the one thing that still makes me cringe/laugh the most was when my son grabbed a patient’s breast in a pet store and squeezed hard to get her attention. He really, really wanted to tell her that he was getting a pet lizard. Here is the post if you want to read about Adventures at the Pet Store.

Let’s wrap this up by showing the blog love. List at least three other blogs you’re into right now. Please include a link to their site as well as a brief description.

First off, there are dozens of blogs that I love and visit regularly. If I have liked a post of yours, then you are on my list. Since I am charged with only listing three here, I am going to pick blogs your readers may not be familiar with:

John Callaghan of Get Off My Lawn, was one of the first bloggers I ever met on Word Press. He writes about all manner of things. He is not terribly prolific right now which makes me sad. He has a sharp tongue and a quick wit and can always make me laugh. My favorite post, however, is this serious one about his past, One Last Beer.

C. S. Boyack at Entertaining Stories is another one of those that I met early on. I learned a ton from him about blogging and creative writing and about making sourdough.

The Skeptical Cardiologist is another interesting blogger. His series on dentistry was especially fun. Part One and Part Two.

Go check them out!

Thanks so much for participating, Doc 🙂


Meet A Blogger: The Monster In Your Closet

After a few weeks away from the Meet A Blogger series, today you get to meet Deborah, who blogs at The Monster In Your Closet. If you aren’t already following Deb, you need to be, as she is one of the most kick ass bloggers on the Internet. Depending on which day you visit, you may come across a beautiful poem, a post reminiscing over her days as a student, or a heartwarming story about her boys. She is also the author of The Monster’s Daughter, which you can find more information about here.

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What’s your blog about and how did you get started blogging?

I started my first blog in 1995, when I decided I wanted my homepage to be more than a collection of links. I took that down in 2001–though the on-break notice is still up!–and moved to a more private blogging space, finally landing on WordPress in early 2011. I began The Monster in Your Closet as a place to talk writing and promote my then-new YA novel, but quickly realized I liked developing emotional connections way more than talking about writing by roughly eleventy billion percent more.

Thank You, Miss Smartypants.

What would your Motivational Poster say?

My favorite is actually a demotivational poster I’ve had posted in the past and might yet post again: “Just because you are unique doesn’t mean you are useful.” The picture makes me laugh, and–perhaps strangely?–reminds me to consider my objectives and perspectives.


You’re stranded on a desert island and have to choose three movies and three books to entertain yourself with forever. What are they?

I thought about this way too much and … Lord of the Rings, both sides! Part of me thinks I might get a little bored with all LotR, all the time. The other 99.9% of me knows I’d regret it more if I went with anything else!

What would be the title of a book on your day-to-day life?

How to Make Everyone Think You’re an Extrovert (When Really You’re an Exhausted Introvert Parent of Two Young’ns Who Overcompensates Just to Stay Awake)

What is the funniest thing you have witnessed as a parent?

I can barely remember an hour ago and it just gets worse the further back I go, so I’m going to go with the funniest thing I witnessed today! My two-year-old, Littler J, does not dig clothing one bit, so he was cruising around the house naked. My husband, Anthony, said he was going to put Littler in “a kilt and war paint and let him cosplay William Wallace.”

Anthony shouted “freedom!” in hopes Littler would echo him. Instead, Littler ran to where I was putting coconut oil on my lizard elbows. “Say ‘freedom,'” I prompted him. “Fweedom!” he shouted. Split seconds later, he reached for the coconut oil jar and hollered, “GIMME FWEEDOM!”

I busted up laughing, and I’m hoping he’ll take a little while to catch on the coconut oil is … not actually “fweedom.” Hee.

If you could give one piece of advice to new bloggers, what would it be?

Be you. You’ll find (at least) hundreds of posts daily telling you the specific steps to take and rules to follow to be a successful blogger. It can be tempting to follow that advice, but what the blogosphere–and the world!–needs is you. Your voice. Your thoughts, feelings, and perspectives … you, as you, not someone else’s proposed most-successful-blog-like version of you.

Let’s wrap this up by showing the blog love. List at least three other blogs you’re into right now.

I haven’t been able to spend much time on blogs recently, but these are three of many that I wish could get ported directly into my brain during my morning commute:

Victo Dolore
No Talent for Certainty
Little Bits of Heaven
Every blogger whose name shows up in comment on my blog 🙂

Thanks again for participating, Deborah!

Meet A Blogger: Stephellaneous

Warning: Do not read this post and drink. The risk of keyboards being ruined is high with this one.

Once upon a time, people hated Mondays. They saw this day as the start of another long week full of working, classes, parenting, etc. Now people are all “Can the weekend go by quicker? I wanna shirk my responsibilities for a few minutes and meet a new blogger! TGIM! TGIM!!!!!” Meet A Blogger

Okay, maybe not. But, it is indeed Monday, and it’s time to meet a blogger. The person you’re meeting this week is Stephanie from Stephanellaneous. That blog name alone should be enough to make you get over there and click the “Follow” button, but if you need a little more convincing, know that Stephanie writes one of the most honest and humorous blogs out there. Still don’t believe me? Then read the damn interview, already!

Tell us, what got you into the very addictive world of blogging?

I was promised servants. Nude male servants. Lies. All lies. But since I’d been off and on with blogging for years, I thought I’d give it another go. It has proven to be a great outlet for emotional release. It sounds cliche, but it has been quite therapeutic. And I keep coming back because the community I’ve found here is stellar. You all have lifted me up and kept me comforted and sane in my darkest hours, shared countless belly laughs with me and just been fanfuckingtastic friends. That is, when I don’t drop off the planet for days and days.

What are three of your best posts so far? Links and tell us what makes them important to you.

I’m bad with rules! I’m a rebel! Damn the man! So I’m giving you four! That’s right. Call the Po Po Ho!

These are four of my favorites:

a. The Wallpaper – This one is deeply personal. It’s a fiction piece, which is something I’ve been trying my hand at lately. And it’s full of symbols and metaphors. I was very pleased with how it turned out, which is rare for me – to be pleased with something I’ve written. And, as I said, it’s deeply personal to me and my life.

b. C is for Cookie, but M is for Mottos. Which is what this post is about. Not cookies. Now I want cookies. Thanks Obama. – This one is silly and serious at the same time. It starts out with complete nonsense, but then I go into why it’s important to have a positive motto and live life for today. Don’t wait. Grab it by the horns and GO!

c. Newsflash: Time Marches On (aka The Year Ends. Every. Fucking. Year.) – This is a seriously ranty post. And I love to rant. It has to do with how people at work have the same conversations every day, every week, every month, every year. And it drives me fucking bananas! FUCKING BANANAS! (Ew, now I have a visual of bananas fucking. Sorry about that.)

d. The One Where Stephanie Finally Does a Top Ten Post (aka Stephanie Posts Again in the Same Week. It’s a Christmas Miracle!) – Another super ranty one – mostly about coworkers. The ranty ones seem popular, cuz people think they’re funny. And that makes me happy. So do cookies. And hedgehogs. And sloths. Can someone get me a baby elephant? For fucks sake. What’s it take around here to get a happy exotic animal with a side of cookies?

What would your Motivational Poster say?

Butterbeans are assholes. No, no. I like this one better: If you get out of bed, you’ll have to do the same fucking thing you do every damn day. So don’t get out of bed.

52068785Okay, okay. I’ll be serious. My Motivational Poster would actually be a Henry Rollins quote: “No such thing as spare time. No such thing as free time. No such thing as down time. All you got is life time. Go.” I recently found it, and I’ve brought it close to my heart and am holding it there. And it’s an important reminder for me, every single day, to get off of my ass and get in the driver’s seat of my own life.

What is the funniest lie you busted someone telling you?

Let’s see. When was this? I believe it was my freshman year of high school. My best (only) friend was constantly trying to one-up me. Introvert here, remember? So I really didn’t give a shit. I was an angry, moody wallflower who would open up and be vulnerable and giggly only in her presence. I was jealous of her outgoing nature and the way boys responded to her (she was stacked and willing). And she was jealous of me in other ways. I didn’t realize it then, but certain things make sense now. Anyway. I was totally into music. It was deeply important to me, and I was always listening to something new and cool. Or, at least, new to me. At the time, I was hardcore into Zeppelin, Dylan, The Doors, etc. So one day, Wonderfuck (that’s what I’ll call her) flips her hair and brags, “You may know The Doors’ music better than I do, but I saw them in concert!” I choked on my blue cream soda and calmly asked, “Are you being serious right now?” And of course, she thought I was jealous. That is until I fell backward on the bed and laughed my ass off. I laughed until it hurt and my throat was raw. Wonderfuck didn’t understand. Seriously, she was clueless. So I asked her who else showed up at the seance. She didn’t get it. And since she later tried to sleep with my boyfriend, I hope that she thinks of that day over and over and over and feels foolish and stupid. What a ho.

If you were in a band, what would the name be?

I can’t decide. You know The Mars Volta? Well, I could be The Jupiter Wattage. But I think Dastardly Dangerdonkeys would suit my personality better. Or Pretentious Puffin and the Dancing Pandas. Yeah. I’m cool as fuck.

If you had to pick another blogger to challenge in a Celebrity Blogger DeathMatch, who would it be? And, naturally, tell us how shit goes down and who the victor is. 

I would so totally challenge Josh at My Friday Blog. He is a menace to the blogging community and thinks he’s better than me, cooler than me and has better taste in music. Which pretty much everyone knows is all complete and utter pigshit. I’ve been perfecting the design on my Kiwi Death Blaster 3000, and he would never withstand the violent and steady barrage of angerfruit studded with tiny little razor blades. That is, of course, after I slayed him with my superior wit. Take that, Josh.

Give us three blogs you’re stalking — links and a sentence or two to describe them.

It is really difficult to choose only three. I’ve connected with so many wonderful people here, all of whom have touched me in different ways. But I know I can’t sit here and name every single one of them. So here are three that are very close to my heart.

My Friday Blog. I have to follow this one so that I can see what he’s plotting – it helps me stay one step ahead. I’ve actually linked you to a very special piece that he wrote. The words are special and motivational, and y’all should read it. Aside from that, Josh writes on a myriad of topics. Sometimes you’ll find fiction, sometimes you’ll find rants, sometimes you’ll find politics or social issues, and sometimes you’ll find poetry. He’s freakin’ awesome, for reals. His sense of humor is out of this world.

The World’s Biggest Fridge Magnet. Cameron is a wonderful man with a heart of gold and a fantastic sense of humor. His blog has a lot to do with his weight loss experiences and quite a bit of personal anecdotes mixed in with motivation and wit. He’s currently working on a charity walk to benefit a project called HENRY, which is all about educating and helping young children with health and nutrition. Cameron is a delightful and giving soul whom I’m incredibly grateful to have met.

Postcards from Kerry. Kerry has to be one of the most caring women I’ve ever met. She has so much compassion and wisdom to share, and she has an absolutely wicked sense of humor. She’s always there when you need her, even when you don’t realize you’re in need. Kerry openly shares her life stories, the good, the bad, the hilarious and the sad. Go visit. And I bet you’ll stay.

Want to participate in the Meet A Blogger thing? Comment on the post with your email, or email me at, and I’ll add you to the longish list of people I plan to send a short list of questions to that you can take as seriously or as non seriously as you want.

Meet A Blogger: Confessions

Today’s blogger interview post will introduce you to Matty, who blogs at Confessions. Matty, who contributed a guest post to this blog several months ago, is a senior in college who hopes to become a youth pastor one day. Matty juggles his studies, work, and personal life all while dealing with depression and anxiety.

When you visit Matty’s blog, you’ll notice that not only does he work to reduce the stigma surrounding mental illness, he also writes poetry, about his relationship with God, Meet A Bloggerand about life in general. (Make sure you check out one of Matty’s latest posts called A Little Anthrax For Your Anxiety today — you may have to ask Matty to buy you a new keyboard or a new pair of underwear after reading it, since that’s how hard you’ll laugh.)

Now, let’s get started —

What made you write your first blog post?

My first blog post on Confessions was actually inspired by my previous attempts at blogging/writing. As a young teenager I would bring manuscripts of short stories that I had created to my grandmother. She and I would pour over the details of each story and try to make them any better. She was always so supportive of my crazy ideas. I reread a few of them after a year or so had passed and cringed at how bad they were. I applauded my Grandma for sticking through it though. I’ve tried my hand a few times at blogging but I always drifted from it. January of 2015 brought a new vigor for blogging and I started writing down my thoughts. Fast forward a year and here we are!

What goals do you have for your blog in 2016? We’ll consider them your New Year Blogolutions. 😉

I actually have 4 goals for this year! Only one of them is quantitative while the rest serve as a continual thing. Here they are:

  • To continually, and more effectively, pour time and energy in to the blogging community.
  • To continue establishing my voice in (and outside of) the Mental Health Community.
  • To advance my writing skills.
  • To double my reading audience by the end of 2016.

Which character from The Lord of the Rings do you most identify with? 

This one is actually a really difficult question for me because I love all of the characters. I was tempted to say Legolas because I relate to his incredible looks and amazing golden locks, but (lol yeah right) thought that might be a bit to presumptuous. I then began thinking of Aragorn because of his mad skills with the sword, but then realized I’ve never really needed to use a sword. My final decision was a toss up between Gollum and Merry. I didn’t want to come across insane (or admit it), so I ultimately decided Merry. He knows how to have fun but also knows a level of responsibility. He’s not afraid to take on a challenge but has a soft side. *insert awwww here*

Set your iPod (or non iPod) to shuffle. What are the first 5 songs that pop up? 

  • Cheerleader by OMI
  • Hall of Fame by The Script
  • One Republic Mash-Up by Anthem Lights
  • In Better Hands by Natalie Grant (this is my GF’s playlist *smh)
  • Hey Girl by Billy Currington

So, Netflix has decided to do a movie on your life. What do you think it’s called and which B-list actor would be cast to play you? 

My movie would be called Freakin’ Really? and it would star Jeff Goldblum as myself. Why the title and actor? Well, the title because I feel like I’m constantly dealing with things that make me go “freakin really?” The actor because he was my favorite character in Jurassic Park, and I feel like only he could pull off a snarky chuckle all the while rolling his eyes and just dealing with the stupidity.

Did you play any good pranks in high school?

I was boring in high school, honestly. Due to this, I got picked on quite a bit. Instead of telling you about a prank I pulled I’ll just share with you what was pulled on me (or down in this case).

I played high school baseball during my junior year. We lived up in South Haven, Michigan where it was cold the majority of the year. During the beginning of Spring we would have baseball practice and games, but it was still cold. Due to this I decided to wear sweatpants to school one day. I’m walking down the hall, minding my own business, when all of a sudden I feel a draft. “Curious,” I thought, “it wasn’t cold a moment ago.” I noticed that some girls huddled around a locker looked my way and began laughing. “Curious,” I thought, “I never have much attention from the ladies.” Then it hit me. I looked down. Turns out that one of my friends snuck up behind me and pantsed me in the hallway. Thankfully I can laugh at myself but even more so that I wore boxers that day.

As always, let’s wrap this up with you sharing a few blogs you are fond of. Give us the lowdown as well as the links.

I follow a lot of blogs and I hate that I don’t have the time to read them all. I’m finishing up my senior year of college, and it’s demanding more time than I like. With that said, when I do get the time to read these are the ones I focus on.

Finding Rachel’s Way is one of my favorite blog sites out there. Rachel and I have been friends for the majority of this past year, and I love reading her honest approach to her difficulties and struggles. If you’re looking for an honest approach to all things life while relating to Mental Health, Rachel’s blog is for you!

Behind the White Coat is also another one of those blogs that I’ve followed for a little while. I used to work in a hospital and would always come across doctors who were crude, rude, and just downright not nice people to deal with. Victo is not one of those doctors. She writes from the heart, shares her heart, and makes you laugh with comical retellings of her doctorly experiences.

Confessions of a Recovering P.K. is home to a guy who, like me, grew up as a pastor’s kid. I love reading his thoughts, relating to his struggles, and seeing how God is working through them all. If you ever want to know what pastors and their families go through give him a read.

My friend Lily over at Such Small Hands gives a fresh, renewing perspective on life and finding God despite circumstances. She’s so refreshing simply because she’s honest and open about the things she faces. She’s not shy about admitting she struggles, but she’s also not shy about admitting who takes care of her in the everyday. I highly recommend her even if you don’t believe in God! She’s got a little bit of everything.

Lastly, but definitely not least, is SuperMommyofTwins. Her blog name is Supermom Mentality and she gives a hilarious, yet grounded viewpoint of the Mommy life. I will never be a mother, but I only step away from her blog smiling and appreciating what it means to be a mom. She’s definitely worth the read.

Obviously I’m not going to forget my friend E here. I’ve known her the longest and have actively followed her for the longest time. She needs no introduction because if you’re reading this then that means you’ve met her. I encourage you to share her blog, interact more with her, and keep showing her the love! She’s a gracious gal allowing me (and so many others) a chance to put their thoughts on her site. Keep up the good word E!

Thanks so much for participating and for the kind words, Matty, you rock!

Want to participate in the Meet A Blogger thing? Comment on the post with your email, or email me at, and I’ll add you to the longish list of people I plan to send a short list of questions to that you can take as seriously or as non seriously as you want.