Edit: meeting got canceled, so we have to wait until next week. Sigh.
We have to meet with Asshole Psychologist and the rest of the IEP team tomorrow.
Y’all, my anxiety is an absolute mess over this. I just want to go in there and meet with people who have my kid’s best interests at heart and not have to deal with some jackass. I don’t like confrontation, as confrontation sends my anxiety into a tailspin, and that’s what this will be. I was hoping that we could avoid him. We tried to talk to the principal about doing a 504 Plan only and not bother with an evaluation at this point since we found out she wouldn’t qualify for speech services, but he said the whole team had to meet to discuss it.
I’ve done so much reading on federal laws relating to students with disabilities (IDEA law) over the past two months, as well as anything I could find on IEPs. I know they’re legally obligated to evaluate her if we push for it, I know the steps to take if he tries to violate her rights and refuse an evaluation, and I know who to contact to file complaints at the district and state level if he acts unprofessionally again. And I’ve talked through every possible scenario or insulting bullshit he can come up with and how to respond. My husband probably thinks I’m crazy on that last one, but obsessive brains gonna obsess.
But still, despite all of that preparation, anxiety. Ugh.
On a more positive note, a friend of mine put me into contact with someone who works for an autism society that is a parent advocate, and she plans to attend the meeting with us. I don’t know much about her or how bringing someone else with us will be taken (I could see him making a stink over it), but assuming he doesn’t try to bar her from being there, it’ll be helpful to have someone else on our side I think. I also plan to record the meeting to have proof of any assholery.
Fingers crossed that it goes smoothly. Or that he develops explosive diarrhea before the meeting and can’t attend.