If you are raising your kid to be an asshole*, please stop. (Edit:) By “raising,” I mean being one to your kid so that he learns the ways. Your reprehensible behavior impacts far more than just your child.
You see, my kid is a pretty decent kid. He’s kind to others, doesn’t try to hurt anyone’s feelings, and tries his best to get along with all other kids, even the ones raised to be little assholes*. (As recent as this afternoon, he was trying to figure out how to be a friend to one child, despite the bullshit he’s put up with.)
I don’t appreciate your kid calling mine every awful name he can think of, just because his older brother does the same to him and you laugh when your child gets upset. I don’t appreciate your kid threatening to hurt mine, just because threats are all he knows. And I definitely don’t appreciate your kid putting his hands or feet on my kid in a way that hurts him, just because you think that the answer for your kid mouthing off or hitting his little sister is getting smacked in the head himself. (We both know when it’s not horse playing that was taken a little too far, so let’s not pretend otherwise, okay?)
When you’re told that your kid is being a little asshole*, how about you tell your kid to fucking stop? Better yet, how about telling your kid what he did was wrong and explaining why it was wrong? (Yelling might stop a behavior temporarily because the child is scared, but it doesn’t do much in the way of teaching.)
And, please, don’t feed me the “all kids do things that are wrong” line. That’s very true, and when I see or hear of my kid doing something he shouldn’t have been doing, I’ll make sure to correct him. But when my kid isn’t doing a fucking thing to yours, while yours is being nasty, don’t make that your go-to response, as if it makes things okay. If you’re having to rely on that line a few times per week, it’s a good sign that your kid isn’t just having the odd bad day, okay?
One last thing–while you’re in the process of teaching your kid not to be an asshole*, could you work on not being one yourself? Most kids get it from somewhere, in case you didn’t get that from the rest of the message.
Mom Of The Kid Your Child Was An Asshole* To
*You may think that I’m being hypocritical in asking you to have your kid cut out the incessant name calling, but a) it’s an anonymous blog; b) I’m pretty annoyed and “bully” just doesn’t cut it for this post; c) I’d never say it to you or your kid.
**If this post offends you, maybe it’s time to roll back the asshole* level in your family, hmm?
***Part of this post reflects the past few days and some parts are from what I’ve witnessed over the years.